News for the ‘Sexual Intelligence’ Category
* I guess that means he can’t be a Boy Scout leader no matter how good a man he is. * How long until some kid in a gym tells another kid “You play good…for a straight guy”? * So the NBA has caught up with the military. Now gays can openly shoot in both [...]
Southern Methodist University today unveiled the $250 million George W. Bush Presidential Library & Museum. President Obama and former Presidents Bush, Carter, and Clinton were there, along with dignitaries from across America and the world. The celebration tactfully omitted any mention of the three catastrophes of Bush’s presidency—the counterproductive wars in Iraq and Afghanistan, and [...]
Why does spanking (or holding hands, or oral sex, or masturbation, or gentle love-making) make one person feel alive, while it makes another person feel dreadful? Or to put it another way, when both Mary and Sally say “spanking makes me feel dirty,” why does one smile approvingly and the other frown disapprovingly? Sexuality is [...]
The Religious Right’s been warning us for decades. A Supreme Court justice warned us in Lawrence v Texas. Various institutions have been warning us for centuries—about the sexual, and therefore social, impact of Boccaccio and Chaucer and of women on the theatrical stage, of mixed-gender schools, cheap mass “literature,” talking movies, and of legalizing “rubbers.” [...]
You’ve probably heard that Ohio ultra-conservative Senator Rob Portman has changed his position and now supports same-gender marriage—because, he says, his son is gay. That’s great for progressives. But… Wanting equal rights for your son is a poor reason to support equal rights for a class of people. It reflects exactly the kind of tribalism [...]
The 13th Annual Sexual Intelligence Awards® honor individuals and organizations who challenge the sexual fear, unrealistic expectations, and government hypocrisy that undermine love, sex, & relationships—and political freedom—today. Last year’s winners were Dr. Larry Magid, Internet Child Safety Advocate; Dr. Debby Herbenick, Sex Researcher and Author; best-seller Sex At Dawn, by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda [...]
We know there’s porn and we know there are gay people. But is there “gay porn?” Or is it simply porn featuring people of the same gender having sex together? If it’s “gay porn,” then we would be surprised to find straight people looking at it. If it’s porn featuring same-gender sex, however, then we’d [...]
An increasing number of institutions are claiming religious exemptions from the contraceptive mandate of the new federal health care law. There’s nothing “moral” about this bruising political battle: it’s designed to increase the power of organized religion, and to decrease Americans’ options for sexual expression. The notion that certain institutions can simply opt out of [...]
Forget the hoax, forget Notre Dame, forget college football. What I notice is that this guy was in love with someone he never met, devastated by her supposed death, and everybody thinks that’s perfectly reasonable. Get out the horse and buggy and ‘scuse me if I sound like an old curmudgeon, but this is one [...]
As a sex therapist, I see men every week who don’t get erect when they want to. They often describe themselves as having ED or erectile dysfunction. I say, “So, you don’t get erect when you want to. Let’s call it that.” Conceptualizing their situation as ED is frequently part of the problem. They think [...]